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If she still refuses to give you her number
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If she seems reluctant to give you her phone-number both after structuring an
opportunity for her to offer her number and straight-out asking for it, whatever
you do, don't push it. You need to remain polite and safe, like its no big deal
if she doesn't want to give you her number. But that doesn't mean you'll have to
write her off in your mind, here's a strategy of covert persistence by Johnny
Shack (http://showgirls.com.au):
"Remember: when approaching a woman you have never met you must not be too
overwhelming because it can make her back up. If you press the issue much
further you will not get anywhere. You must still be persistent however and the
best thing you can do if you really want her is this - ask her a couple of times
about dating you and if this doesn't work change the subject to idle chit chat.
In this chit chat you have 2 goals.
The first is to make an impression on her what a good guy you are. Women love a
guy that can hold some sort of conversation. For some reason women think they
are more intelligent than the majority of men. Once you realise this, you need
to throw this thought of theirs out the window and show that you are different.
The second goal and more important is to find out where she works. People's
favorite subject is themselves and you can run a conversation purely on
questions about her. She will almost always answer at least a few of them. Now
two of these questions needs to be where does she works and what is her name
[note that this is not the AFC-style "sooo... what's your name?" and "soooo...
where do you work?" line of questioning which leads nowhere and is just
testament to the fact that the guy is really desperate to have something,
anything to talk about with the babe but can't really come up with anything; no,
this time the questions are actually going somewhere, so hold on:)]. You can say
"Oh by the way my name is Johnny". If she doesn't automatically tell you her's
you should ask for it almost immediately after you have given your's. Now
instead of asking a bold question like "where do you work" (the reason this is
bold is because you are strangers and sometimes a girl will get defensive if you
ask too many direct questions)you say, "So what industry are you in?". Wait till
she answers then say: "Do you like it"? Now she may even tell you at this point
where or who her employer is but if she doesn't you say: "Oh, where do you work
from? I know someone that does that and they really love it". Here you are
creating an impression that you have something in common with her and she will
loosen up and think you are safe to be with. You have also made her feel good
that her profession is one that you respect.
Now that you know her name and the place she works in you should be the one that
makes the move to leave. It is somewhat important to be the one to make the move
to leave to eliminate a possible feeling in her that you may be pestering her
(actually she's lucky you are, but strange beings those women are:). Its not
vital but a good advantage to have made the move first to leave."
[And a couple of days later you can phone the operator of the place she works in
and ask for her:) Remember to introduce yourself and remind her of your
encounter a few days before. She might pretend she can't quite remember you or
the enconter but you can be certain that she does - she's just testing you if
her forgetfulness about you can put you off. Just continue with:]
"I'm the guy who came up to you and asked for your phone number at [whereever]."
"[a simulated response of being curious of how you found her] And how did you
find me here?"
"Remember how you told me who you work for, well I rang the operator to get your
number hoping I would find you there. You didn't think I would let you get away
that easily did you:) [remember to smile here, she'll "hear" it]?"
"Well now that I have gone to this much trouble the least you could do is accept
an invitation to go out with me next week."
"[a simulated response of being curious what you have in mind] It would have to
be something pretty good to live up to your confidence."
"Well, I've been on some dates in the nicest restaurants and the theatre and
many of them have been great. But I've also been on a couple of dates where all
we did was go and have coffee and they also went great. So it just depends on
whether or not we need scenery to make our time together fun... and I'm betting
we don't. Just leave it to me and I'll think of something we'll both enjoy".
A word of warning on the last statement - the reason for letting the girl know
that you have dated before is to create the image that you are a desirable man.
It can also put the girl at ease thinking that this idea of going on a date with
you is not really a big deal. You don't however want to lead the girl to believe
that she is not really that important to you and you are just a guy who goes
from girl to girl, so be careful."
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