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If she has second thoughts
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Partial Estonian translation
To "help" her decide, when she already wants it, you can try these pattern-like
approaches:
Ross Jeffries:
"We shouldn't do it, and we shouldn't enjoy so much. And please don't try to
convince me, that you'd really want to do it… now… with me, this is the way I
see it…"
"I just talked to my friend, Tina, and she told me it is so unbelievably unfair,
that men can make love to any woman they choose, but if a woman wants to express
exercise and enjoy her sexual liberty, she is frowned upon. And I completely
agree with her, frowning is just an expression of utter hypocrisy. For example,
have you ever met a guy and instantaneously felt an irresistible attraction and
fascination, that soon thoughts and feelings start flashing in your mind that
you'd like to act upon and make a reality right away? It is just so unfortunate,
how the society frowns when you just relax and let go and truly enjoys your
feelings… now… with me… the way I see this is that (bla-bla:)…"
"Have you ever met someone (sp) and instantaneously feel such a complete
attraction for him (sp), that you feel like you just _have_ to do something
about it? It's the kind of feeling, that you just have to get near that guy and
you know, that even if you never see him again, you'll be happy with all your
choices and you'll always cherish the pleasant memories?"
Update. Aside from patterning your way around her
second-thoughts, you could also tackle her possible objections (to going out
with you, to sleeping with you etc) head-on. But this will only work in case
these objections are for real - meaning they are not some BS-excuses meant to
just jerk you around until she decides to LJBF you. Differentiating between BS-
and real excuses is not easy to do as many excuses that sound like complete BS
to men are very real for women indeed.
The following example taken from "Sweep women off their feet..." illustrates a
BS-sounding but real objection and how it was overcome:
"There was this girl who used to be a model. She was absolutely gorgeous and had
a great body. She was always concerned that her butt was too big. I had the
hardest time seducing her and trying to make love because of it. She was hot and
bothered, she wanted to have sex as much as I did but this silly little thing
was stopping her. She didn't want me to see her naked because she was ashamed of
her "big butt" and she was afraid I wouldn't find her attractive anymore.
Anything I would say to let her know that her butt is just fine was met with
resistance. "The only reason you're saying that is because you don't want to
hurt my feelings," she kept saying. So what happened? We compromised. We had sex
in complete darkness so I can't see her big butt. It took us sleeping together a
few times before she was comfortable enough for me to see her naked, and of
course, she went on a diet before that."
Ideally she should of course be so attracted to you after all the patterning and
value-eliciting etc, that she just doesn't care any more and simply has to have
you. However you can not always count on that, in which case it is easier to
find out what her possible objections might be and then do your best to make the
issues go away.
If you can't seem to figure out, what exactly her objections are, you can make
it more comfortable for her to tell you by using this slightly humorous
approach: "Imagine I have a magic wand and I can use this magic wand to make
anything I wish just disappear. So just tell me one thing you'd like for me to
make disappear in order for you to feel comfortable about us going out together
(or going to my place/your place:). It can be absolutely anything - maybe a
person, or some attitude of our society, or a project you need to finish in
time, maybe something about yourself, or something about me - absolutely
anything. But what would that one thing (you'd like to disappear in order for
you to feel comfortable about us being together) be?"
There's a good chance that after having formulated her objection, it starts to
look smaller and even insignificant to herself already. But you didn't ask the
above question just to rely on that. Depending on the objection you should now
be trying to eliminate or lessen the obstacle any way you can (patterning your
(her:) way around it, reaching some sort of a compromise etc).
Update. The following strategy is designed to
eliminate any possible second-thoughts she might have before she ever has them.
For that purpose you will have to give her what Jobet Claudio from Mindlist
calls The Mental Escape Hatch:
"When closing the deal with a woman, always, and always, and always provide her
Mental Escape Hatch. More often than not a woman will have an internal conflict
about fucking with someone who's not her boyfriend or husband. This may stem
mostly from societal programming and no woman will want to have herself labelled
as a "tramp", either by herself or by society.
Thus it is incumbent upon you to create a Mental Escape Hatch for a woman. In
simpler words, give her an EXCUSE to have sex with you. In effect, she must be
able to retain her self-worth even after she's had the tremendous experience of
doing it with you. And you do that by creating a mental escape hatch, an excuse,
or a scapegoat upon which she can point blame as to why "it happenned". That
excuse can range from the lame to the profound, but it doesn't matter too much.
Just do it and give her an excuse - give her an excuse to fuck you.
For example, if you wanna take her to your place, you aint gonna tell her: "Hey,
lets go to my place and fuck". In her mind, an alarm goes off saying "Yea! I
wanna... um... Tramp! Tramp! Tramp!"
The right way to do it is to present something that could be interesting to her.
"Hey... wanna see my Picasso collection (owws?)... I've got a wonderful
collection of rare love music in my pad... wanna listen to them and maybe we'll
go for a nightcap... then I'll walk you home (subtitle: in the morning)?"
Then of course there's alcohol. A great excuse for many. You drink a couple of
glasses of wine. You fire off your NLS routine. She falls for it and you make
love on the couch. In the morning, she can always tell herself "Ohh...must have
been the wine". Great huh? A mental escape hatch. An internal excuse.
What's the mechanics of this? What does it do? It allows her by shifting
responsibility to someone or something else other than herself, to retain her
self-steem. And if you know what you're doing, don't and I mean DON'T try to
break down her excuse. More often than not, the mere fact that she did it with
you one time is already an excuse for her to do it again. By then, the
psychological barriers have been broken down.
Mental Escape Hatches can be used in the pre- and post-fuck stages. As a
pre-fuck routine, it disarms resistance by presenting different motives other
than sex. As a post-fuck routine, it ensures that the woman won't feel bad about
"doing it" and you wont get something akin to buyers remorse.
For example, with one of my partners, I asked her "Hey... I've got Sleepless in
Seattle at home. Wanna watch a home movie with me? There'll be popcorn and some
wine". She went. We did it. Mentally, she would say to herself "We never
intended to do it... we just went there to watch a movie, but I got so swept
away by my emotions from the film... so when he kissed me it just felt so right"
See also:
At Least We Can Be Friends pattern
Our World routine
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