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Incredible Connection patterns
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Estonian translation
Pattern 1 - a classic:) Also an important note, why patterns might not
work on some women.
This is the most classic and legendary of SS patterns. Partly because it is one
of the oldest and partly because it is the most appropriate to use as your first
pattern after having had some fluff talk with the girl you just met.
A very important note on the IC pattern (and even patterning in general) - there
are women that are NOT into the feelings/connections stuff at all. So what's
wrong with them? Nothing, they are just into SEX and getting down with you! Yes,
believe it or not, there are women like that, just waiting to be discovered. Of
course, they are a minority, otherwise you wouldn't be reading all this:) But
they do exist and it is important to notice them in time and not to keep them
waiting while you're busy delivering your patterns and trying to make her feel
wonderful etc. You could just be shutting her down. So although they are a
rarity and an exception, keep your eyes open because you never know when you
just might find a gem like that:)
In the words of Ross Jeffries (Ross Jeffries): "Not all women will respond to
"connection" patterns. Some women who are already emotionally occupied, but
sexually bored, or shut down emotionally, but open sexually or just don't
believe relationships are possible will still be very receptive to a "body
sensation" approach." This actually means, that she won't be much moved by your
descriptions of "emotional connections" but will be entrhalled, once you include
feelings of bodily sensations in you patterns. But most probably they'd actually
prefer to feel those bodily sensations instead of imagining them, and that is
your cue to go kino:) (See Kinaesthetics for more information)
Nevertheless, the "incredible connection" theme has an almost universal appeal
for women, se here's the pattern:
"In fact... just standing here... talking with you... I have an intuition...
that when you connect with someone... someone you really like... someone you're
really attracted to who makes you feel that click… right there... you know that
sense of just feeling totally drawn... like you've known this person forever...
like you were meant to know them.... a big part of it is that recognition that
you can RELAX and laugh with this person… can you feel _that_ (touch her and
achor the feeling)... is maybe how it works?"
From here you could for example transition to the Falling in Love pattern.
Update. Madman: "The IC pattern is NOT a good
pattern to introduce as the first pattern after some initial fluff talk. You
must have established some sort of a connection first with some other patterns
and only THEN can you help her realise through using the IC pattern that "yes,
that's exactly how I feel right now!". Using the IC pattern won't establish a
connection by itself. So the way to do it is this:
1) Initial fluff talk to establish some faint rapport
2) Patterns and tonality to establish deeper rapport. Take your time, don't
hurry, slow down the tempo of the conversation, watch your tonality. She'll be
feeling a lot by now, but she is probably confused as to the nature of her
feelings, so its time for step 3.
3) IC pattern (or a modification of it) to help her realise that an incredible
connection with YOU is exactly what she is feeling at the moment:)"
See also:
Kinaesthetics
Falling in Love pattern
Pattern 2 - Incredible Connection mixed with a little Falling in Love.
Remember, this pattern will make HER feel an incredible connection with YOU.
ASF:
"I recently just got out of a long relationship. I guess I'm not your average
guy. I mean for me... I have to develop a mental relationship with someone
before anything more will happen. I really have to "Connect" with someone
first... I mean.... Have you ever been talking to someone and noticed that
everything around you seemed to fade away? ...and as you listened more and more
you began to focus more and more of your attention on him. Do you remember how
that felt to truly start becoming attracted to someone? Maybe you remember
feeling "butterflies" in your stomach? To become attracted to someone.... not
only because of their physical appearance... but because of who they are...
because as you listened to them, their true attitudes and beliefs became
apparent to you. As you listened to what they had to say... you suddenly
realised that this guy was truly unique. Finally, you had found your "MAN". Do
you remember the last time this happened? Maybe, you felt a little scared or
nervous at first because you were feeling such an incredible connection. Or
maybe... you began to think about "What might happen in the near future?" How
your heart would speed up as he began to move closer to you... How you would
feel such an Amazing RUSH of energy as he held you tight in his arms... or how
it would feel to have his lips Pressed against yours for the first time. Maybe
the little girl inside you dreams about meeting a man like this at night...
Maybe you think about what steps you would need to take to Hold On to this guy
once you finally meet him? I mean... maybe it seems like I have gone off on a
tangent here... but that is how I feel."
Pattern 3
Ross Jeffries:
"Did you ever . . instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a
long, long time? (sp). Like maybe even though you only knew them for a short
while . . it seemed like you had known them your whole life, as if there were
this timeless connection between you and them (point from her to you). I mean,
you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers just drop away
and melt and you just feel totally comfortable and at ease with them (sp). And
its like maybe you were even able to (And you might find that you are able to)
imagine a time in the future, say years from now, still being incredibly
connected to this person (sp) and looking back on today as having been the start
of it? I just think that's the neatest think when a person can . . go inside and
. . instantly recognize all those qualities and values in that other person,
that . . lets that connection take place with someone (point) . . with me, it
usually takes a bit longer.
But when you really FEEL A CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE. You know that mysterious,
timeless link that just makes you feel like you've known someone forever...like
you were meant to know them....and it's almost like YOU'RE LOOKING RIGHT AT YOUR
FUTURE...like YOUR FUTURE IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU...when you FEEL THAT...it all
starts out as an actual physical click... a tug that takes place right...(raise
your hand over your head, point your index finger, and then SLOWLY bring it down
straight down the middle of her face, without touching her until you get to her
solar plexus, just below her breasts)..THERE!(touch her solar plexus) Can you
FEEL THAT(squeeze her hand with your free hand) is maybe how that can
happen...NOW...WITH ME...I just find that's such a great feeling...isn't it?
I think it's so funny how some people can just do that and let it happen
instantaneously (snap) because for me it takes longer. But I do find that during
the course of an evening (a conversation), as you really listen to someone (pt),
and you start to recognize those values and qualities in them that you hold so
dearly for yourself with me that's when you can make that connection and really
feel that growing bond.
But what I find really interesting is .. what can happen is when you FEEL THAT
CONNECTION, that warm, safe and comfortable feeling right there, then what can
sometimes happen is a picture of this new person your connecting with will sneak
itself right into that special location in YOUR MINE where one keeps a person
they care deeply for, and that's how you know you're already starting to fall
for this person. And sometimes during the course of the evening or maybe even
during a simple conversation like this one you'll look up at that picture and as
you continue to feel that attraction growing, its like that picture gets bigger
and brighter. And that's how you know you really just want to be with this
person and you're really READY to be swept off your feet. NOW the funny thing
is, when you have that kind of connection with a new person (sp), maybe as
you're snuggling in the sheets about to fall asleep, again (pop) up comes that
picture of this person in that special special place and also maybe at some time
during the day like when you're stepping into the shower or you hear the sound
of running water again it reminds you to see that picture so clearly in your
mine."
Pattern 4
From David Shade's online seduction log:
"You want to feel trust for this person because you know you really like this
person, so you take the time to build the trust. Building trust takes being
honest with each other while at the same time being independent. You want to be
with someone who is communicative and shares their feelings freely. And you want
to get to the point where you can almost know what they are thinking, like you
could finish their sentences. You so much want to know what this person is
feeling, and you want them to know what you are feeling. And then you get to the
point where you almost want this person to feel the same feelings you are
feeling. That is when it is really special."
Pattern 5
Use this assuming that you've been talking to the girl about incredible
connections before, but somehow things haven't yet quite turned out the way they
should have:) But seriously, there are girls, for whom the patterns have a
delayed effect, in which case this follow-up is just perfect for helping her
realise what she feels and wants the next time you meet.
Ross Jeffries:
"You know the other day we were talking about how sometimes one can suddenly
find themselves feeling really connected to someone.
Me, it happens rarely but when IT IS HAPPENING, I often find I wasn't aware of
it until afterwards and you realize it was the start of something amazing.
Something you'll always cherish for the rest of your life.
I mean sometimes a person can just be looking at someone and suddenly for
whatever mysterious reason, feel a connection so powerfully taking place, a
connection that just lets you know that this person is going to be really
special in your life where you find yourself so easily imaging being with this
person in that special way two people can be together who feel that growing
attraction, but then sometimes you don't even NOTICE AND FEEL ITS TAKEN PLACE ..
NOW WITH ME I find though that later when you LOOK BACK ON THE WONDERFUL,
DELIGHTFUL THINGS THAT TOOK PLACE and suddenly you realize how ENCHANTED YOU
FIND YOURSELF FEELING HMMMMM, its like you FALL UNDER A SPELL and you FEEL SWEPT
OFF YOUR FEET and you loose your sense of time and space NOW, as if your ENTIRE
WORLD IS THIS PERSON (IN FRONT OF YOU), like you're LOOKING/listening to your
FUTURE as you just continue to LISTEN SO CAREFULLY.
And I think you may not FEEL THAT CONNECTION INSTANTEOUSLY, but even over short
conversation like this one ... a person can find themselves starting to
naturally realize that this person is someone who totally meets their criteria
for someone you want to spend time with in that special way. In a way that makes
you feel mmmm you know what I mean.
And you RECOGNIZE WITHOUT EVEN THINKING ABOUT IT that you really are looking
forward to spending more time with this person and the more you allow yourself
to feel this the more you begin to think of other things (point to your dick)
that can be so delightful. And you begin to feel so safe and uninhibited so that
you know its OK to just let yourself go and imagine having your fantasies really
come true .. NOW WITH me thats how I sometimes SEE IT THAT WAY."
Pattern 6
Ross Jeffries:
"Can I ask you a question, I know this may sound funny but, have you ever felt
absolutely comfortable and at ease talking with someone (you just met)? I mean,
when . . that's happening, its like this (powerful, loving) connection is taking
place between you and them (sp). And maybe you were even able to... imagine a
time in the future, say years from now, still feeling that sense of connection
and looking back on today as having been the start of it. And you might find you
feel such a strong attraction that you aren't even aware of what you are doing
since your mine doesn't want you to know what your body is doing until
afterwards, and you can reflect on how wonderful and pleasurable the experience
is and you are so glad you didn't miss out on anything."
Pattern 7
Ross Jeffries:
"Let me ask you a question. Have you ever been totally fascinated with someone?
Like maybe as you were there, looking at him, and you started to listen
carefully, it was like his voice just seemed to wrap itself around you, to the
point where the rest of you environment just disappeared, and you entire world,
everything you saw, became what was right in front of you? And anything he
described, you found that you could just picture it clearly? So you know, if he
were to talk about a romantic walk, on a moonlit beach, with your perfect
partner, you could just see yourself there with him, just enjoying that, that's
what it would be like"
Pattern 8
Ross Jeffries:
"Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a
long, long time? Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it seemed that
you had known them your whole life, as if there was a timeless connection
between you and them?
I'm wondering as you are listen so carefully, if you can remember the feeling of
that, and just how wonderful it was because sometimes life has a way of making
us remember those things, right prior to discovering that we can experience
those feelings again with someone.
Me well, I don't think that kind of thing can be forced. No essay or words or
can allow that to happen, but you just begin to recognize now how much you want
to be with someone who is so good for you. Words and appearances are only
expressions, the vehicles that contain the essence that moves us. It can only
happen naturally as the expression of an energy between two people, but when it
does, you just know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers melt
and drop away, and two people come together, fused into one spiritual essence,
mingling energies, building and increasing and intensifying, mingling into an
expression of aliveness that words can initiate but never capture fully.
It has to be indulged inside your imagination, dwelled on, and toyed with, deep,
deep inside you. Speaking to you as a person who can experience that kind of
connection, just how much can you look forward to enjoying that with someone who
moves you in that way? As you remember what that would be like, and find those
possibilities opening before you, in such a way that anything else blurs into
insignificance, how powerfully will you feel that urge to be with someone in
that special way and find out more about this person who has so moved you, with
just words? As you might BEGIN TO RECOGNIZE NOW you want to meet with me,
realize I can be reached at [...]."
Pattern 9
Ross Jeffries:
"What's it like when you're so attracted to the sound of a man's voice, that
whenever you find yourself really listening, its like the warmth of that voice
just starts to wrap itself around you, and spreads all through you, maybe to the
point where you find yourself thinking about being with him in a mmmmmmm special
way, in a way that would make you both feel mmmmm you know? You hear their voice
in your mind maybe when you're falling asleep you get that feeling on the inside
and you feel warm all over. So much so that as those pictures in your mind get
bigger, and brighter and more intense, and those feelings mm intensify you could
just experience an overwhelming desire, a desire to be with him to the point
where you just had to be with him in that special way (pick up the phone, and
invite him over)"
Pattern 10
Remind her of all her feelings she has always wanted to share and what a
wonderful experience it is to find someone to share all those feelings with. Not
specifically an IC pattern, but related nevertheless, as you are creating a
feeling in her of being so completely understood.
Ross Jeffries:
"Do you remember when you were a little child and you went to bed expecting
tomorrow to be a rainy stormy day? But you woke up the next morning and to your
delight and surprise, you looked out to see a brightly shining sun, and not a
cloud in the sky? And you realized, "Hey...this day is MINE to make happen?"
Imagine sharing those feelings everyday with someone who truly understands,
along with the passions only adults can create and share."
Pattern 11
Incredible connection via greeting card or e-mail. Jonathan Ness, mindlist:
"Isn't it crazy (soften...soften...) how you meet somebody and you just feel an
instantaneous connection... With me, it's like a click right in your stomach
when you realize you're going to like and trust this person for a long
time. That's how I felt ("You go first" principle...) when I met you at [where]
[when]. I confess (girls LOVE confessions...), I have been thinking about you,
wondering how much you have been thinking about me, too. (not "whether" but "how
much"!). How surprised would you be to find yourself wishing you could spend
some more time with me... Right now, I can see us over coffee laughing and
having the best time. As you think about this more and more, I'm sure that you
can feel a smile coming to your face, realizing how much fun we're going to
have. Let's meet [where] [when] for lunch, around noon, so we can get to know
each other better. Or, if Friday night would work better for you, give me a call
at [number] and we'll arrange the details."
Pattern 12
Notice the tie-in with the Cialdani Reciprocation Principle. Kevin Kupal,
mindlist:
"Have you ever felt an instantaneous connection with someone (point to self), a
guy who just makes you FEEL THAT CLICK, right there (click in front of her
chest). And when you do, I bet, that guy can just make you FEEL SO WARM AND
WONDERFUL, DEEP INSIDE YOU... make you FEEL such a FANTASTIC DELIGHT, an
INTENSE, DELICIOUS PLEASURE... inside YOUR MINE... DEEP INSIDE YOU... just by
being with him (point to self), just by looking at him (she's looking at you,
dummy). Now, I WONDER how you WONDER how when you've found that guy (point to
self), and FEEL ALL THE DELIGHT he gives you, how will you give back to
him some of the delight that he makes you feel... how will you GIVE YOUR ALL to
please and delight him (point to self), even just an inkling of the delight he
gives to you? How good will you feel just by giving him back some of the
incredible delight he gives you? When you feel that the more you please him, the
more you exponentially please yourself?"
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