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The Door pattern
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This one is the "bad boy" of all patterns. Anyone who has studied SS and NLP and
has come into contact with the Door pattern, has found it to be evil and cruel,
playing on the fears and deep insecurities of women. To give you an idea of how
bad this pattern actually is - even Ross Jeffries himself has denounced this
pattern and says that he does NOT encourage anyone to use it.
So... as always with stuff like that... "for educational purpose only":)
The Door pattern originated by Alex Domnikov. Mindlist:
"Whereas most patterns are about getting a woman into bed, The Door is aimed at
controlling her after you've started sleeping with her. Other patterns that
you've used on her have anchored immense pleasure to you. The Door creates an
anchor for the loss of that pleasure.
You've already had intercourse with the girl. The ideal setting for the power of
the door, which is a power and control pattern, is right after you've had
intercourse and you're in bed with the girl, and at this time hopefully you've
set up the fact that you're also the man of her dreams and fulfil her emotional
needs. You're fooling around in bed, you've already had a great time, and you
go, "sweetheart, what's that over there?" and you point towards the door. And
she'll say, "well you know, that's a door, silly." And you say, "yeah, you
know.. I'm a real positive person, but.. I mean, can you imagine.. I mean, you
don't know what can happen from day to day, when you think about it in your
mind. I mean, what would happen if I walked out that door and the door closed
and as the door closed, it slammed shut, and no matter what you did, you could
not open the door and you knew that you would never be able to look into my eyes
again and you'd never be able to hear my voice again and you'd never be able to
feel my touch again." Ok, right here is where she starts going, "I don't like
this door business at all." And at this time you just reassure her.. "ok,
alright sweetheart, you're right. You really shouldn't think about the door and
you really don't have to think about the door." So you go back to playing around
with her some more. Have some more fun with her, bring her to another orgasm or
whatever and say, "you know, a terrible thing happened the other day. My friend
was hit by a truck. I mean, it was awful, by the time they got him to hospital
he was dead. I can't believe it, you know? It's almost as if, it would be a
horrible thing you know when you think about.." (point towards the door) "..that
no matter even if you were to get that door opened and you were to search, that
you could never find me again.." Then she starts freaking out. You calibrate
more on that part of, "you will never be able to see me again, you'll never be
able to hear my voice again."
"You'll never be able.. all that fun we had together, all those great times we
had together, walking along the beach, hand in hand in the moonlight, we would
never be able to do those things again and even if you were to open that door,
you would search and you could never find." And she's at the point where she's
saying, "no no I hate this door. Let's stop this door now, are you trying to
upset me?" And you say, "oh, I'm sorry sweetheart, I'm just saying these are
just things that are popping into my mind, ok?" So play around some more. Get
her good and nice and hot again, fool around, have a good time with her, joke,
and then then get back into the door and say, "you know, God, still you know,
about life's tragedies.. I mean, I just keep on thinking how.." At this point
you can already see that this is starting to make her feel uncomfortable. You
want to create that sense in her that you can walk out and she'll feel terrible
for the rest of here life. You want to anchor that response. I'll get up and
she'll say, "well what are you doing?" And I'll say, "I'm going to the
bathroom." I go up to the bedroom door and slam it. That right there will freak
her out. Then I'll open the door and say, "oh, I'm sorry. You know, I'm sorry,
I'm just playing with this door again. You know, you really shouldn't think
about this door now and you really don't want to think about this door now."
Having anchored that sense of loss and pain to the door, you can trigger it
whenever needed. Whatever negative behavior may come up that you want to stop,
the first time you just get up and slam the door. Whether you walk out the door
depends on the level of bullshit. On later occasions you can just indicate tbe
door in some manner. The example Alex gives: If he's talking on the phone and
getting any crap from her, and he knows the relation of where the door is to her
desk, he says, "sweetheart, could you please turn right and take a look at
what's over there.." and that was the end of the bullshit."
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