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Kinaesthetics (aka kino) - have kino with your female
friends/acquaintances
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Psychological studies show that casual touching during a friendly conversation
causes people to remember the conversation more fondly after the fact.
The combination of kino with social proof is dynamite. Touch one girl and the
other girls seeing this think its normal or even "good" to be touchy-feely with
you:). Now you can quite naturally move on to touching those other girls and so
forth:).
ASF: "It's quite simple - hug them, touch their hand sporadically and in A NON
THREATENING WAY, that is, not like the desperate pervert we all are:) So the
idea is, you hide completely the interest you might have AND at the same time
you act really touchy/huggish. The problem is - you have to start this early in
the "friend" relationship, it has to seem natural, or otherwise she'll wonder
"what the fuck is he doing lately?":) Once you've developed that kind of
flirtatious friendship, it's easy to spawn other such 'friendships' with other
women: they will see you being close to another woman, and I think the key here
is that, it probably does not trigger as much jealousy as it makes them (the
"new" ones) feel comfortable -- they see another woman being touched by you in a
non-threatening way, and, blam, social-proof, it becomes a 'proof' to them that
it's normal for you to touch them in turn... "
ASF: "Ok, I use this all the time now. TOUCH HER!!! It doesn't matter if you
just met her. Hold her hand, rub her arm, her elbow her back, her shoulders, her
hair, her face. TOUCH HER !!!"
ASF:
1. PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
2. PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
3. One more time: PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU !!! If you do this
you will be able to better gauge if you have the appropriate rapport to invite a
kiss. If her body seems to respond to the non-sexual touching then get gradually
more sexual. For women some areas of the body outside of the primary erogenous
zones are intimate: Palms, inside the elbow, ear lobes, cheeks, the hips were
the waist meets the hips, between the fingers....
4. Last thing: PAY ATTENTION TO HOW SHE RESPONDS TO YOU!!!
Update. Do the things that lovers do - brush
off "something" that's stuck in her hair, gently stroke her cheek pretending to
wipe off an eyelash etc. These are the types of things lovers do and by doing
them, you will make her feel (doesn't even matter if only subconsciously) like
you were her lover. Plus you'll get "innocent" yet pleasurable kino:)
Update. Kino as soon as you meet a girl.
Meeting someone for the first time is an excellent chance for starting kino -
shaking hands when exchanging names is a tradition of many cultures and
cultures. But make sure you hold on to her hand longer than expected, long
enough for you to enjoy it and her to notice, if not you enjoying it but at
least you not letting go as quickly as people usually do.
When meeting girls you already know, shaking hands might seem strange, so giving
some sort of a hug is the way to go. You don't need to fall all over her to give
her a hug (which depending on the situation might even make you look like a fool
or a pervert or make her embarrassed instead of having her enjoy it too:), a hug
can also be putting your arm around her waist or shoulders when standing to her
left or right and pulling her closer for a moment, or taking her hand for a
moment (but not shaking it), or her elbow, or arm etc. Daniel, ASF: "KINO on the
arm/hand as soon as you say hi to show her you are a sexual being."
Update. Set the mood of the date from the start.
When going on a date/get-together, establish the mood immediately. You can of
course change the mood from "polite and calm" to "warm and friendly" to "aroused
and sweaty" during the course of the meeting, but why go the hard way, if you
can jump right into "warm and friendly" or beyond in the first place. It is best
to have acting enthusiastic upon meeting the girl to have agreed upon previously
(most probably when you set up a meeting on the phone, see
Refining the close in Closing for more information). But even without that,
you can be all smiles when you meet her, give her a big hug right away, try to
take and hold her hand all the way to whereever it is that you'll be going and
watch her change from slightly nervous to happy, smiling, starry-eyed and
glowing all over:) And remember - enthusiasm is contageous:)
Update. Foot-flirting. You've all seen it
done in the movies:) The foot looses the shoe and the woman is stroking the man
with her bare foot or vice versa. Corny you say:)? A cliche maybe:)? Try it and
then see what you think:) am, ASF: "[in response to "you can't kino sitting
across the table"] Actually, you _can_ kino when you are sitting across from the
target. Just use your feet! Of course this requires a small table, but this also
helps to set up an intimate atmoshpere (remember candles etc.). Touch her feet
"occasionally" with your own under the table, say something like "tee hee, you
are foot-flirtin' with me?" in a joking way. Look her deepely in the eyes while
doing this, and continue using your feet. Do it the right way and at the right
time with a chick in the right mood, and voila! You can actually proceed to
rubbing each other's crotches with your toes under the table, then say "my bed
is that way" and BANG! You're IN!"
Update. "Can't hear you:)". LordGaeden, ASF:
"Try this: If she says something, lean forward as if you aren't hearing her very
well, and touch her (arm or back). Then lean back again and answer. Are there
any easy clues as to when is the right time to go kino? The clue is when it's
possible (ie, she's within in range)".
Update. Kino is the difference between getting
and not getting the girl. It is the saving grace of even the otherwise
doomed "nice guy" approach. And in some instances, being the "nice guy" together
with using kino can even be quite effective. Here's why: the success of kino
depends on whether the girl perceives you and your touch as a threat to her or
not. You can be a rough and tough guy (I try to avoid the word "jerk" as it is
not really quite reprsesentative of what the opposite of "nice guy" actually is)
and still have the girl feel you are not a threat to her speficically, thus
initiating kino will be easy. A nice guy usually just has an easier time having
girls feel he is not a threat to them. Usually though, that is also his undoing,
as he is consequently perceived as weak, neutral and non-sexual, all of which
are major turn-offs for girls. But here is where the saving grace of kino steps
in. You are safe, so touching and hugging with you is... well, also safe.
However, before she knows it - touching and hugging with you moves from feeling
pretty good to quite exciting to really electrifying until all that good, safe
and friendly physical contact with you is going to make her wonder: "If it feels
so good just to touch with him, why on earth not do more? I wonder what that
would be like?". Which is not to say that being the "nice guy" is the way to go.
This was simply meant to illustrate the strength of kinaesthetics - it even
works for the "nice guy":) So remember - kino really is the difference between
getting and not getting the girl.
Update. The protective gesture. Maxim
(http://maximmag.com): “In a crowded bar, if people are walking by and pushing
you, there’s a way a guy can put his arm around you—not actually touching you,
but behind your back so he’s sort of keeping you from getting shoved. A man
doesn’t need to pick a fight with some guy who accidentally steps on my toes,
but it’s nice if he’s protective. —Kris, 27, Los Angeles”
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