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Paying her a compliment
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Complimenting a girl is a double-edged sword. It has been known to go great
lenghts and it has also been know to stop an advance dead in its tracks. Some
girls will hang on to a guy who keeps complimenting them no matter what, other
girls dismiss a guy that pays them a compliment as just another chump.
More than anything else, whether to compliment her or not depends on how you can
pull it off. Being hesitant or bland about your compliment to a girl that
usually loves and craves for compliments, can make her frown with scorn and turn
her back on you. And being sincerely passionate and unique about your compliment
to a girl that usually dismisses complimenters as chumps, can make her fall into
your arms with a longing sigh.
Then again, being able to be passionate, sincere and unique, you most probably
have no need to resort to paying compliments to win her favour - she is already
aching to be with you based on your previous interactions:)
Should you however choose to compliment her nevertheless, here are a few
pointers, which, if nothing else, should at least keep you from straying too far
from the path of the perfect seduction:)
The first fule of complimenting - don't compliment the obvious. She knows
about the obvious, she has heard compliments about it before and if you do it,
you'll automatically be associated with all the chumps that got nowhere with her
with their compliments about the obvious. Plus it gives the impression that
you're just fishing for some cheap gratitude on her part without caring to
invest much anything yourself.
You can make an exception to this rule if there's something about her, that you
really like so much, that you just can't bare not to tell her. But in this case
don't forget to add a description of why you like what you like about her and
how it makes you feel.
The second rule of complimenting - do compliment the existent but not so
obvious. This makes you stand out as it shows that you've actually invested some
thought and have been more perceptive about her than others. When paying the
compliment, don't just say you like this and that about her. Describe exactly
why you like this and that, describe how this and that about her makes you feel
- she'll be listening to you and feeling it alongside you.
The third rule of complimenting - compliments tend to linger in the minds
of the ones that receive them. The more reason for you to pay only the "right"
compliments. For each time she thinks of the compliment and it was "right",
she'll think of you in an affectionate manner. And if it was cheap-ass - she'll
think of you with scorn. So recognize and utilize the lingering aspect of
compliments and only pay her the "right" compliments ("right" being defined in
the first two rules) to have her feel continously affectionate towards you:)
Update. Body compliments are better avoided in the
initial stages of your interaction with the girl. Maxim (http://maximmag.com):
“It makes me uncomfortable if a guy comments on my body in any
way, as in `You look really good in that skirt.’ That’s way too familiar for
just meeting someone. It’s too obvious that you’re trying to pick me up. —Karen,
27, St. Paul”
But do compliment the parts of her body that you like later in the
relationship and she'll adore you for it, for now you are someone who's opinion
actually matters to her and thus you have the power to make her happy. So yes,
women crave for body compliments just as much or even more than personality
compliments, just don't make the mistake of paying those compliments early into
meeting her or you'll come off as a horny pervert trying for a cheap pick-up.
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