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Reading the signs of a "committed" woman
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For starters - a story which at first glance only seems to illustrate the
mistake of judging a girl by her words and not her actions. But after a more
careful inspection, even those seemingly "rejecting" words of her are actually a
complementary sign to her actions (the sign being - "I want you!":).
Mr Happy, ASF:
"Ok boys and girls, learn from Mr. Happy's mistake so that you don't fall for it
yourself.
I met this chick online and got her to agree to meet me to play some pool. She
was *really* hot. I also did a really good job of conveying personality... I got
in some good negs, some humor, some teasing, it was very playful, and also some
light kino. (I know I did this right because she still messages me, etc so maybe
I'll get a chance to correct the FUCK UP that I made...read on.)
See the whole time she is talking about how she is a Christian, and she works
for Campus Ministries, and she has a FIANCE, and how they're not just DATING,
but they are COURTING and how special it is, blah blah. She also says how busy
she is because of school, and that if I'm going to see her, it'll be on her
terms (ha!) so at that point I thought, screw this, I have better things to do
with my time. She invited me to a mechanical engineer (her major) party that
friday and I turned her down.
She messages me a few days later and talks about how she got drunk and stoned at
the party and how she went home with some other student and got her brains
fucked out. She hopes she isn't pregnant, she doesn't intend to tell her fiance,
etc blah.
That could have been me in there! I will never spare a chick again:)"
Based on the story above, here are commentaries by Odious on what were/are the
signs of a married or borefriended iow "committed" woman being interested in
you. Odious, ASF:
"OK, having been with married women before, there are 3 key signs that she's hot
to trot and ready to step out.
1. She will "open up to you" and tell you what IS NOT happening with her man.
This goes for married women, women with boyfriends... all of them. She will tell
you flat out what it is she is missing and what she wants. When she starts
telling you how he's not cutting it, she's letting you know that door is open.
Now this woman did this, but it sounds like she was being subtle about it. She
said they were courting, not dating... what the hell is that? I think that meant
"we have a commitment but he's not fucking me."
2. If she's interested, she'll create opportunities for the two of you to be
alone together.
I had a woman who I didn't even realize was interested in me, come over to my
house to study and work on a paper... because her computer was on the fritz. The
thought that she was hot for me did not even cross my mind until she started
asking me my opinions on the meaning and value of marriage iow "what would you
think of a woman who cheated on her husband... with you... right now!"
3. She knows when he'll be around or not, so she'll want to call the shots as to
when you see each other.
She obviously did that one. However, don't count yourself out just yet, because
she is still giving you a subset of the first sign (which was - telling you what
is _not_ happening with her man). She may tell you about other sexual exploits -
if she cheated on him before, or if she cheated on an old boyfriend etc. So this
woman is hitting all the signs. She's opened up to you, she's making time, she
wants to call the shots as to when you get together, and now she's telling you
she cheated. The next time you see her, or talk to her - act like you think her
cheating is no big deal, that you respect it when women can go for what they
want. I have also found an attack on the sexist nature of the whole idea of
monogamy to be very effective:
"The whole idea of monogamy dates back to a time when women were treated as
property. Men ran the world and made all the rules. So men could have mistresses
and concubines, but if a woman cheated she was stoned to death. It is completely
sexist and hypocritical. I think you should listen to your heart and your
desires, and see where that leads you. To me, that is the only way to go.
Fulfill your desires, and seek pleasure. With me, that's what's important.
Pleasure is a gift, indulge it and you become a more fulfilled and complete
person." etc."
Update. NYC explains why "committed" women are
actually quite easy both to approach and even get "very friendly" with:) NYC,
ASF:
"Women that are "taken" are different from women that are single in that they
are either LESS PICKY or MORE HORNY. Single women are either looking for more
than just dick (MORE PICKY) or they have less of a sex-drive so they don't
REQUIRE a man in their lives unless he's just what they want.
A chick that is "taken" gives herself to her boyfriend so he can fuck her. Now
the pressure is on the guy to perform. Unless the guy is still HOT for the
chick, the sex is routine or most importantly... ORGASMLESS for the woman. When
she meets you, she feels that DESIRE to be with a man. She feels YOUR DESIRE to
please her and take your pleasure from her. It is that ROMANTIC kind of
interaction that she doesn't get from her "boyfriend" coming home, turning on
the TV, watching sports, feeling her up for a second (lack of foreplay is a
MAJOR turnoff) and fucking her until HE cums and falling asleep. As long as she
feels like she can get away with it and still have her hum-drum relationship
intact, she will fuck you. You would be surprised how many women are "taken" but
nowhere near SATISFIED! Ray Parker made the point that HBs are NEVER without a
man. They keep the one they have until they hook up something new. Then they
skip off, so if you are waiting for an HB to become SINGLE, you can forget it!
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