The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes of Dating

1. Nice Guy Syndrome

I'm sure that you have met several women who have a habit of going out with guys that can only be described as "jerks". How many women can you think of that only go out with guys that are always nice? Can't think of any? Neither can I.

The reason for this sort of behavior may seem irrational or mysterious, but it's quite simple. Women don't pick guys based on how nice they are. They have a different criteria that they use to judge their dates.

Women choose men that they feel attracted to. And you can't make a woman feel anything just by being nice. You have to accept this, or you're doomed to failure. Find ways to make her feel something, preferably good, toward you. But if she doesn't feel anything at all, you won't get anywhere at all.

2. Convincing women to feel differently

If you've been brushed off by a woman that you really liked, you've probably fallen victim to this mistake. You probably tried to convince her to change her mind. The problem with that is the same as the in first mistake.

Women choose their dates based on feelings. No amount of convincing or mind changing will alter how they feel. No amount of logic or reasoning can help in this situation.

If you really want to change the way she feels, you're going to have to correct all of the mistakes you've been making - and you must be making them, or she'd feel attracted to you already.

To make her feel differently will take a lot of positive feelings. More than you would have needed from the start, as you have to overcome the negative feelings that you've produced already.

3. Seeking Approval of Your Actions

When trying to please a woman, you are probably falling into this trap. Unless you're dating a dominatrix, this will leave a bitter taste in her mouth. Women want a man who can take care of himself, not someone looking to clamp onto them like a leech.

I certainly don't mean that you should disregard her or her feelings. You should always respect her feelings if she indicates that what you are doing is not the right thing.

Do what comes naturally, and if there's a problem you can work it out. Be confident that you're doing the right thing. She'll certainly let you know if you're not.

4. Buying Affection

When you take a woman out to a great restaurant, and give her some expensive gifts, what sort of message are you sending? You might think that it's a good one, but that's not the case at all.

Your sending a clear message that you are not good enough for her without purchasing her affection. And when you go all out like that on a first date, who can blame her? If you don't feel like you have the confidence to win her without buying her affections, she won't feel that way either.

Women can even view this an attempt to manipulate them. That's not any way to earn someone's trust. You can't purchase their affection, but you can earn it through hard work. Make sure that you don't try to buy a shortcut.

5. Letting Your Feelings Loose Too Soon

Revealing your deep commitment to women early on in the relationship, whether you feel it or not, is going to scare them off very quickly. It might seem to be a good way to involve their emotions, but it is definitely one of the ten most dangerous mistakes you can make.

A Woman will regard this as a total lack of emotional control on your part. And that will scare her. If you can't control yourself, you'll end up being trouble for her.

Most women will react this way. You're certainly not the first person to express these feelings for them. This also lumps you in with all of the other rejected candidates, which is not where you want to be.

You want to stand out in the crowd, but not by your lack of control. Depth of feeling is a good differentiator, but without a controlled hand it can be very off-putting.

Keep your emotions in check, and let them out in small doses, when called upon. Keep control and, in general, keep your cool.

6. Misunderstanding Female Attraction

You will need to accept that women have different criteria for attractiveness than you do. You may become instantly attracted to women when you see them, but the reverse is certainly not true. For men, looks are a large factor, but for women, looks are not as important.

Since they don't focus on looks, women are focused on some other aspect. So what is this other factor, if not looks? I've said it before, and it bears repeating. Women are attracted to men that can make them feel.

When you know how to induce feeling in a woman, using body language and good communication, you'll find that she becomes attracted to you just as quickly as you are to her.

It takes a little bit of practice, but it's something that any man can learn to do. Attracting women will become second nature to you.

7. Stopping Before You Begin

Lots of men give up before they even begin. Are there women that you've met who you feel are unattainable? If so, then you have already made this mistake. Whether you knew you were making it or not doesn't change the outcome. You have just limited your own options.

Some women do think this way, but not many. Most women consider personality to be a much more valuable trait than looks and cash. And you've already got that.

When you learn to let your personality shine through, you'll be a lot more successful. You need to bring something unique to a date, to make sure that you stand out. And there is nothing that you can find that is more unique than yourself.

You have to let your individual qualities surface in your actions and conversation. When you learn how to apply your qualities to inspire attraction in women you'll get the types that you thought were inaccessible.

There's no reason that you should settle for less. The only thing stopping you is yourself. Let yourself out of your cage. Just be wary of the other ten most dangerous mistakes and you'll be fine.

8. Letting Her Walk All Over You

This might sound obvious, but you've probably let it happen anyway. Letting her call all of the shots is the same thing.

When you let her treat you in this fashion, you are becoming a non entity. You're being lumped together with all of the other people that fall all over her. The ones she could wrap around her finger if she cared to expend the effort.

You don't have to defy her, just remember that you aren't her slave either. Now on to another of the ten most dangerous mistakes you can make.

9. Not Thinking on Your Feet

It may surprise you to learn that a woman almost always knows what you're thinking. Scientific studies show that women are ten times better at reading body language than men are.

For example, when you're thinking about kissing a woman, she knows it. When you're thinking about asking her out, she knows it.

What's worse is that even though she knows what your thinking, she won't help you. So, if you just stand there not knowing what to say or do, she'll just look at you and think "Wow. He's clueless."

This is true for every interaction you have with a woman: kissing, asking her out, asking for her number, getting her into bed - everything.

That's why it's so important for you to know how to take your interactions to the next step. You need to know exactly what you're going to do and how you're going to do it.

It's not her job to give lessons on dating technique to every clueless guy who approaches her, so don't expect her to do it for you.

You wouldn't show up for a business meeting unprepared, would you? Of course not. So, don't show up for a date unprepared either.

10. Not Learning From Your Mistakes

Not learning from your mistakes is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps many guys failing over and over and over again.

Guys make this mistake because they're afraid to admit - even to themselves - that they need help. They don't want to seem weak or stupid. Many guys think this way.

What these guys don't understand is that there's no shame in admitting that you don't know everything. Nobody knows everything. The only shame is in not learning new things and bettering yourself when you have the opportunity to.

It takes a strong, intelligent man to know when he needs help and then go out and find it.

I used to be afraid to approach women, afraid of being rejected, and, most of all, afraid that I'd spend the rest of my life alone. One day, I simply got tired of feeling like that.

I realized that there were men out there that could go up to any woman and get her number or ask her out. So, I decided to become one of those men.

The way I did this was by finding guys that had all the luck with women and learning their secrets. Turns out that it wasn't luck that they had at all, it was skill. And skills are something that anyone can learn.

Sure, it didn't happen overnight. Nothing good does. But after learning and practicing, now I can go up to any woman and get her number. I can call up a woman for a date and never feel that sickening "What if she says 'No'?" feeling.

I guarantee that if you devote your time to learning how women work and practice your new found skills, you'll be able to do this too.

So, now that you know the ten most dangerous mistakes, you should also know how to avoid them. Go out there and practice maximizing your dating success.